"As soon as Isaac had finished blessing Jacob, and Jacob had barely gone out from the presence of his father Isaac, Esau his brother came in from his hunting. He also had prepared savory food and brought it to his father, and said to his father, “Let my father arise and eat of his son’s wild game, so that your soul may bless me.” Isaac his father said to him, “Who are you?” And he said, “I am your son, your firstborn, Esau.” Then Isaac trembled violently, and said, “Who? Where then is he who hunted game and brought it to me? I ate all of it before you came, and I have blessed him. Yes, and he shall be blessed.” When Esau heard the words of his father, he cried with a great and exceedingly bitter cry, and said to his father, “Bless me, even me also, O my father!” He said, “Your brother came deceitfully and has taken away your blessing.” Esau said, “Is he not rightly named Jacob? For he has supplanted me these two times. He took away my birthright, and now he has taken away my blessing.” And he said, “Have you not reserved a blessing for me?” Then Isaac answered and said to Esau, “I have made him your lord, and I have given to him all his brothers as servants; and I have sustained him with grain and new wine. What can I now do for you, my son?” And Esau said to his father, “Do you have only one blessing, my father? Bless me, even me also, O my father!” Then Esau lifted up his voice and wept." -Genesis 12: 30-38 (MEV)
"We believe that we are the Unblessed Brother, and that is our problem." Emily Dennis declared this during worship at one of the services that I was a part of, and it was this statement that began to speak volumes to me. What a powerful declaration of truth and opportunity for us to recognize where part of our troubles could be stemming from.
You Have Been Weeping
There has been a season of weeping that you have had to endure. It's been a very long and difficult season. At times there would be brief moments of breaking through, but something would come along and derail that plan. You found yourself struggling with one of the greatest mental battles you have ever fought. Life has become so unfair and often overwhelming with everyone getting their blessing as you are getting passed by. You want to understand process, but you keep finding yourself weeping rather than praising God for the journey. It will never happen for you and certainly it will happen for everyone else. You were suppose to do so many things for the Lord, and yet it seems that nothing is working in your favor. The Blessings of the Father have passed by you without any opportunity for favor. Those that were once close to you, now have robbed you of your blessing. Never mind the fact that they lied, stole, and manipulated those around you. You will never be anything because of what they did unto you. "It wasn't my fault", cries the depth of your heart. Even those that should have been for you, worked with those who manipulated everyone around.
You Claim the Birthright, But Not the Responsibility
You find yourself trying to explain to everyone that you come into contact with that you have the birthright for blessing, but there is one major problem. You were willing to sell that birthright during a time of weakness. Granted, I am not talking about a literal selling of a birthright (today). Somewhere along the way you determined to settle for surrendering the wrong things and settling for the simple things in your relationship with The Father. Everyone is different, and not every story is the same, however there are many who have settled in their faith to be complacent rather than persistent in your walk with The Father. It may have not been over a bowl of soup, but it was your passion. Maybe it was your hunger for righteousness. There was a time you were willing to till the ground for revival, and now you no longer believe that God is going to be anything other than an angry.
You Believe You Are
Honestly, it could be a multitude of many different things that has derailed your ability to believe that God has a blessing for you. No matter the circumstance or situation that has brought you to your current state of life, you have affirmed within your heart/mind that you are the Unblessed Brother. You truly believe that no matter what you have done, or what others have done unto you...you will never receive the blessings of The Father.
Right now you are at the point of giving up due to the blessings that you see everyone receiving, but that's not what is hurting you the most. It's those that plotted against you. You are hurt and in a lot of personal pain that at times drive the hatred of yourself more than anything. You have wept, but you haven't been able to forgive yourself.
Instead, you find that the anger continues to grow against those who stole from you. And yet, you're still unwilling to recognize your own fault in it all. Though they worked against you...though they stole from you...though they lied...you also gave away the very thing that was the key to your blessing. You believe that you are the unblessed brother because it is easier to live off of the sympathy of others rather than the repentance of your own actions. Please know my heart as it isn't to condemn you and make you feel any worse than you already may. My words are to alert you to what you can be responsible for. You cannot go back and change what has already been done, but you can allow a heart of repentance to direct your next step.
No one could ever blame you for the pain, hurt, anger, and unforgiveness that you walk in due to the action of others. However, Jesus is more than enough to take away all of those feelings that you currently have. It's not about what they did to you that will determine your story. Your story will be written based off of how you determine to write your own chapter. Stop allowing what they did to be your alibi when you have the power to change the way you think (repentance). As easy as it is to believe that you are the unblessed brother, it is as easy to believe that you can redeem your birthright of blessings. Oh I know that there will be those who scream that Esau never got his blessing, so why should we? Well, the difference between Esau and You...JESUS!
"He has delivered us from the power of darkness and has transferred us into the kingdom of His dear Son, in whom we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of sins." -Colossians 1:13-14
"For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God, being justified freely by His grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus," -Romans 3:23-24
"In Him we have redemption through His blood and the forgiveness of sins according to the riches of His grace," -Ephesians 1:7
You are Redeemed
These verses are only a small sample of many throughout the word of God as a reminder of what is possible. It's time for you to stop your weeping! Take action and repent for your own decisions. Ask for and walk out the necessary forgiveness. Learn to position yourself for the Blessings of The Father (Abba Father). Don't allow another moment of your life to pass by believing that you have been done wrong and because of what they did to you, you'll never have a Father's Blessing. The Father...God wants to bless you! He wants you to walk in His Worthiness, His Righteousness, and His Blessings. Do you want it? Do you desire to redeem your birthright? Will you receive His declarations over your life? Abba Father is declaring over your life!